Child and Adolescent Counseling
Children and teenagers often begin therapy after struggling with overwhelming feelings, having a difficult experience, or displaying challenging behaviors at home or school.
Children and teens can find it challenging to recognize emotions and regulate behavior, leading to a disconnect between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This often manifests in children and teens through anxiety, depression, poor self-esteem, anger, poor academic performance, social withdrawal, avoidance, and acting out. Other challenges faced by children include problems concentrating, focusing, and socializing.
Stress and high expectations are important to consider, as they are incredibly impactful on well-being. Add in stressful life situations, COVID-19, "regular" school and home stresses...it can sometimes just feel like too much.
Therapy can help children develop skills that allow them to control their behavior, develop self-confidence, process challenges, and manage strong emotions.
Nearly one in three adolescents will meet criteria for an anxiety disorder
Family involvement is a very important part of the treatment process. It may consist of working with parents to oversee their child's treatment or more in-depth involvement in the form of family therapy, parenting consultation, behavior management skills, or other family based interventions. We take a team-based approach and collaborate to support you and your family in conjunction with pediatricians, teachers, and other important figures in your child’s life.
“Toys are children’s words and play is their language.”– Dr. Garry Landreth
Young children can experience different challenges such as divorce of their parents, death, and many more. Although children are very resilient, sometimes they need extra help to work and process through their feelings and emotions. Play therapy is the primary approach we use to work with children. Children can express their world and themselves through play. By using play, a child can communicate more naturally and openly. Through play, they can resolve many challenges, express feelings, develop problem-solving skills, learn new ways to relate to others, and modify behaviors. Using a collaborative approach, the therapist and caregiver will work closely to support the growth and development of the child.
Although play therapy is geared towards younger children, it can also be effective with teens and adults. This can be accomplished by integrating expressive techniques into the therapy process such as sand tray, art, and games. Using expressive techniques can help the client and therapist explore a deeper understanding of the client’s experiences and their world.
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Are you sick and tired of feeling sick and tired? Do you find yourself dealing with anxiety and depression and just not even sure where to start to find happiness again in your life? Therapy can be a tool to help you find the clarity you've been missing and gain insight into your life. Our goal is to walk beside you on this healing journey, providing support and guiding you in learning some effective coping skills to move forward in your healing process and personal growth. Our role as your counselor is to present a new perspective and sometimes also to hold you accountable.
E M D R Therapy
What is E M D R ?
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, which is far too complicated to say, so we stick with EMDR! EMDR is a therapy developed by Francine Shapiro in the 1980's and has been proven to be one of the most effective interventions to treat PTSD, trauma, phobias, grief, and other disorders such as depression and anxiety. EMDR processes trauma, anxiety, negative beliefs much more quickly than traditional talk therapy and with longer lasting effects. Many people might start a session feeling triggered and upset by an incident, and after 60 minutes of EMDR leave with the incident not bothering them at all.
EMDR addresses two aspects of trauma; the memory of the negative event and the triggers that cause the distress. Trauma can oftentimes feel like an open wound, and sensitivity to those triggers keep the wound from healing. EMDR uses bilateral stimulation(BLS); tapping, auditory tones, or eye movements to accelerate the brain's capacity to process and heal a troubling memory. Results from EMDR can be seen quite quickly, without the use of medication, and can be achieved with little talking during the session. EMDR invites the client to re-associate the traumatic memory with healthy information and therefore reduce the stress response to that distressful stimuli. Researchers have found that EMDR is effective in "hacking" negative memories through its similarity to Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep, which is known to be associated with long term memory storage.
Traumatic experiences can leave us feeling stuck and hopeless about our lives. EMDR helps to unblock the part of the brain where the trauma initially occurred.
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What does the research say about marriage counseling and couples therapy?
If you remain in a relationship with your partner long enough you will experience ups and downs. This is a normal part of a healthy relationship. People disagree and that is ok. However, if the downs are lasting longer or happening more frequently than normal, it may be time to consider marriage counseling and couple’s therapy.
Most experts agree that it is more beneficial to consider therapy before you “need to”. This is because by the time you “need to” things have gotten to a point where it may feel like there’s no return. This is when resentment, anger, and avoidance begin to set, which will make it more challenging to get the results you are seeking in a short term. Simply put, waiting it out despite the warning signs may result in much more work and greater emotional and financial investment.
Why are relationships struggling?
Many of us struggle in our relationships because we’ve had poor models, have unfair expectations of others, or are seeking to have all of our needs met by one person. Rather than being whole on our own, we expect our partner to fulfill this need. Issues of frustrated attachment, distrust, fear of engaging a partner, traumatic experiences (past or present), and issues of intimacy are just some of the ways problems in our relationships are experienced. Stressful life transitions can affect your relationships.
Others may have challenges due to a recent event or life transition. This can strain the emotional resources of the marriage or partnership. To name a few, deaths, moves, illnesses, financial strain, parenting, infidelity, empty nests, and career stresses can greatly impact the relationship. These can ultimately cause and create emotional distance in a time when support is needed the most.
Family therapy provides a safe and confidential place for families to work on resolving conflicts and increasing communication. It provides a place for the family to build trust and coping skills to work through different phases or challenges of life. Family therapy can be helpful in many family situations such as stress, anxiety, grief, a trauma that may have affected the family, family transitions, (divorce, adoption, a new baby, moving, career change) anger, conflict, and communication.
Your family is your heart. We understand that when any member of a family hurts, the whole family hurts too. We know that regardless of your circumstance or events, your family deserves wellness and happiness each and every day.
We Can Help
At the Red Door Counseling, we serve the whole family with therapy designed to help you heal from issues such as trauma, grief, substance abuse, depression and anxiety in order for you to get the most out of your relationships.
There is no way to quantify your love for your loved ones. We are here for you so that your family stays strong. We are supportive of your values and determined to help each member of your family grow.
The Benefits of Sex Therapy for Women
Why aren’t I as sexual as my friends? Why is it hard for me to want to have sex with my partner? How can I talk about sex with my partner? I’m not even really sure what I like sexually.
You Don’t Have to Feel Alone. Women’s Sex Therapy offers a safe place to explore all of these questions. It’s a place where a woman to explore, learn, and challenge unrealistic expectations around their sexuality. A woman’s sexuality is often under the microscope: by culture, religions, the media, and sometimes even our family and friends. This scrutiny can create intense shame and uncertainty around a woman’s sexual feelings, desires, doubts, and insecurities. By attending Women’s Sex Therapy, you can begin to separate yourself from who you “should” be sexually and become who you want to be sexually.
Women’s sex therapy concerns can include:
Vaginismus, Vulvodynia, & Sexual Pain
Lack of Sexual Confidence
Low Sex Drive
Sexual Shame (due to family, religion, STI’s, etc.)
Negative Body Image
Women’s sex therapy can be helpful for women who span from feeling as though her sexual desires are not being fulfilled to women who are unsure what their sexual desires are. Sexuality can be a confusing subject that isn’t always discussed openly. If you feel burdened by shame when even approaching the topic, women’s sex therapy can help. Sexual concerns that are unique to women require a specialized knowledge and understanding. As a Certified Sex Therapist, let me help you be your best sexual self!
The Benefits of Sex Therapy for Men
Men's sex therapy concerns can include:
Premature Ejaculation/Rapid Ejaculation
TTC Pressure (Trying-To-Conceive Pressure)
Pornography Addiction/Sexual Addiction
Low Sex Drive
Sexual Abuse or Trauma
Suffering from any of the above can be painful. It can result in reduced confidence, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression. Men in today’s society don’t have it easy! The pressure to “perform” is always on. Men are expected to know how to be a great lover. But who teaches them this? Rarely do men feel comfortable enough to ask one another ‘tips’ and ‘tricks’ on how to be good in bed. Doing so is often considered to be un-masculine. What is a man to do? Where is he to turn? Addressing these concerns through men’s sex therapy is private and confidential. It’s a safe place where men can get the answers they have always sought and ask the questions they were too nervous or embarrassed to ask.
As a Sex Therapist, Holly has worked with men as young as 18 and as old as 80. Whether you struggle with Erectile Dysfunction, Premature or Rapid Ejaculation, Low Sex Drive or a Hyper Sex Drive, working with a sex therapist can help. Men’s Sex Therapy does not include any sexual contact with your therapist. It does include talking about sex. It can also include education and tools to help reduce the fear and anxiety underneath many sexual dysfunctions.
Couples Sex Therapy
Couples sex therapy can help address the following questions:
Do you worry that your partner never wants to have sex; or that your partner wants too much sex?
Are you frustrated with your own or your partner’s sexual dysfunctions?
Do you feel turned off by the way your partner approaches sex?
Is there a lack of communication around sex and sexual wants, desires, and needs?
Are you finding yourself feeling sexually unfulfilled?
Did you recently have a child and are struggling to “get back on track” sexually?
Was there an infidelity that has damaged your ability to feel sexual with your partner?
Are you in a long-term relationship where you feel more like “roommates” than romantic partners?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you and your partner could benefit from Couples Sex Therapy.
"I learned long ago that in order
to heal my wounds,
I must have the courage
to face up to them"
- Paulo Coelho